Saturday, May 17, 2008

Balance

I seem to be in a rut lately. Not exactly sure why, but I just am. I have so many things that I want to write about, but can't seem to steal away the few minutes I need, in order to do some typing. My mother could attest to this, because she is about the only person I email on a regular basis, and I haven't even been doing that (sorry, Mum!).

I find myself at a very odd stage with the boys right now. Camden is about to turn 5 (gulp), and Griffin is just over 1 1/2, and boy can those two go at it. I find that I spend most of the day breaking up squabbles, drying tears, trying to get to the bottom of who "touched" who first, etc. It is madding, I tell you! I know all of you moms out there with more than one child know exactly what I am talking about. I don't like this stage. I am not enjoying it. Please tell me it gets better! What I struggle with is having the patience to deal with it. I constantly find myself wanting to climb on top of the dining room table and scream, a la Rodney King, "Why can't we all just GET ALONG??!??"

One thing I am realizing is that balance plays an important part in all of this. If one of the boys is being particularly challenging, the other seems to get lost in the shuffle. When that happens, then there are hurt feelings and more acting out. So hard to keep everything running smoothly, at times. Yesterday afternoon, when I thought for sure that my head was going to explode, I realized how badly I wanted some "alone" time with Camden. I seriously don't remember the last time the two of us shared some special time by ourselves. So, when Steve got home from work, Camden and I headed for Sonic (his favorite treat spot). Then, we took off for the Big City to get new cowboy boots and Wranglers for him. We did a couple of errands to take care of while we were out, and we spent that time holding hands, giggling, talking about pirate ships, and just being happy. Gosh, I love that little boy. It is painfully obvious to me this morning that both of these little guys need individual attention on a regular basis - - something that isn't always easy to pull off, but I'm determined to make happen.

6 comments:

Cheryl said...

"This too shall pass" is something I have repeated to myself many, many times over the years! It sure sounds as if the boys have plenty of attention, I know its hard to make sure everyone is taken care, but don't forget yourself!
The trip you and Camden made to Sonic sounds so fun and those are the memories you will both cherish. My three are very close to each other, even though there is 13 years between the oldest and youngest! You'll see! P.S. I still have days that I think my head will explode as well :)

kirsten said...

I could have written exactly this post. I have this challenge on a constant basis with the twins. Very very competitive with each other and squabbles non-stop. One book I highly recommend is "Siblings without rivalry"- definitely shed some light on how to maintain peace and sanity. I also realized that each kid has different needs and sometimes I try to blend both needs kids together and it doesn't work.

Melissa said...

It IS hard to find that balance, but it really will get easier as they get older.

One on one time with the kids is very important. It is such a boost for the kids (one at a time ;) ) and for us when we do that!

Cheryl said...

P.S. Heather, just check out "Jon & Kate plus eight" and that should make you feel better :)

Melissa said...

Oh my gosh YES Cheryl!! lol!

Carol said...

You will find out someday that Camden will mention the times you spent with him and also Griffin. Boys are different then girls, are less sensitive as they get older but sure come through in later years with meals you cooked how they liked how you cleaned their clothes or you know how to cook their meals. Hang in there they will be grown soon and you will wish you could do the screaming!
Susie

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